My Ex Didn't Want The Cat (And She Didn't Like Him Anyway)
When my ex decided to walk out the door, he didn't even bother asking for the cat. The truth is, he's allergic anyway, so it was sort of a moot point. And besides, he hated that cat - but not as much as she hated him.
She was incredibly stand-offish to him from the day we brought her home, and she used to sit and just glare at him all the time (I'm not kidding). Once he left, she became five times as cuddly and fun with all the rest of us. Seriously, it was like she suddenly got a sunshine and rainbow infusion or something. And just a few months back when he stopped by to get the kids, he tried to reach down and pet her and she bit his leg.
So it really was no surprise that we never fought over the cat, but I have known divorcing couples who fought over custody of a pet just as hard as they'd fight for their kids. I also have a really good friend who was devastated when his wife of six months left him and then moved across the country - taking his dog with her. He'd raised that dog from a puppy and it had been his constant companion for three years. I can imagine just how hearbreaking that could be.
And this is why you need to make sure you're addressing any pets in your divorce agreement, if both of you are going to want to keep the pet. It's actually becoming a lot more frequent to see pets being addressed in divorce negotiations, and some people even go so far as to sue for custody or set up elaborate visitation and vacation schedules.
Pets are family, they really are, and you can't divide them up as easily as the living room furniture or the contents of a garage. You have to consider their needs, and their best interests, as well. As much as it would have amused me to think of my cat pointedly ignoring my ex every other weekend, I'm glad he left her behind. She helped me through a lot of loneliness during those early months after he left. I wouldn't trade her for the world.
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